Each Sunday I write a tip inspired by some words of wisdom to encourage regular self-care and reflection.
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"That might be the most important thing to understand about humans - it's the unknown that defines our existence. We are constantly searching, not just for answers to our questions, but for new questions."
- Captain Sisko (Avery Brooks), Star Trek DSN
Living in vast unknowns is human.
It is our undeniable shared common ground.
We're all on this rock hurdling through cosmic space and time.
And nobody, nobody, has got it all figured out.
We're all on this ride.
We're all searching.
We're all seeking. * * *
"I'll protect you, fair maiden!"
(In response) "Sorry, neither."
- Uhura (Nichelle Nichols), Star Trek
One of the best ad-libbed lines of television history. And a great reminder that part of who we are - is knowing who or what we are not.
Contrast, dissonance, differences - they tell the story of where we started, who we grew to be, what shaped us, and who we may become.
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"It is the struggle itself that is most important. We must strive to be more than we are, Lal. It does not matter that we will never reach our ultimate goal. The effort yields its own rewards."
- Data (Brent Spiner), Star Trek TNG
For most of us, 2020 has been a struggle of all kinds. Postponements, adjustments, reevaluations, pivots, hard turns, and crashes.
But as Data (my hands-down all time fav Trek character) reminds me, we must strive to be more than we are.
Events can wait.
We will adapt.
The efforts we put forth, the attitudes we project, the compassion we show in this struggle, that is most important.
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"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness, that is life."
- Jean-Luc (Patrick Stewart), Star Trek TNG
One of the harder truths to face is when we seemingly do everything right, but things still don't turn out how we'd like. When we planned, we saved, we worked hard, we checked all the boxes.
Then suddenly life turned on a dime. A disaster struck. Something fragile broke. An old wound reopened.
It's easy to get stuck in a hindsight loop. Why didn't I do this? Why didn't I change that? Why didn't I see it coming? We begin to think we should have somehow predicted the unpredictable.
Sometimes we do nothing wrong, and still lose. It's not our fault, it's not a weakness. It hurts. It's frustrating. And sometimes it's life altering. But is part of this strange thing we call life. We learn, adapt, and move forward. Sometimes wiser. Sometimes stronger. Always forward.
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"This is all just beginning; We've only charted 19% of our galaxy. The rest is out there just waiting." - Wesley (Wil Wheaton), Star Trek TNG
In times of chaos and change it's easy to think the sky is falling and the world is coming to an end. While some things are falling, and some things are coming to an end, it's also just the beginning.
As one large human family, it's like we are just learning to walk. There's so much stumbling along the way. Though trial and error we are all learning. Getting better. Getting stronger.
There's so much to explore. It's just out there waiting.
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